Happy New Year Lovers! If you have been paying attention over the last week or two you have probably been offered every single diet, new planner or calendar, workout and wellness program the world has to offer. The thing I find strange is that regardless of all this focus placed on well-being in January, rarely is any of it connected to romantic relationships. What I have realized over the last year with my clients who have hired me to help them stop fighting and improving their marriages is this; You can set a personal goal or a resolution to make you feel better, but if you aren't intentionally improving your marriage there may not be anyone to celebrate losing the weight, changing the bad habit or learning the new skill with at the end of the year. Don't confuse what I am saying here. I think self-care and putting your well-being first should be the MOST important thing in your life. But if your relationship feels a bit stale, or you are constantly bickering or having a lot of "talks" about who did what wrong day in and day out, then you should reconsider your goals and give yourself the gift of a better marriage instead. I recently updated my free mini-course End the Argument Before It Starts and it will help you get on the path to a healthier and more beautiful relationship this year. One final thing. Taking care of your relationship is self-care of the deepest kind, because you deserve to feel love, support and enjoy the life you are creating with your spouse. So tend to that garden, Lovers! I hope this is the best year yet.