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No One Makes You Feel Loved

  Its a really common thing for people who are having relationship problems to "My partner doesn't make me feel loved anymore." One of the most liberating things you will learn in coaching is that in fact no one can make you feel loved. Let me use my toddler as an example.
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The True Price of A Troubled Relationship

If your relationship has been in turmoil for awhile, I want to shed light on the true price you are paying as your try to improve it.   How much time and money have you spent trying to "fix things"   Do you buy gifts, vacations or expensive dinners hoping that this time you will be able to rekindle the spark?
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The Most Powerful Gift for Your Relationship

We grow up in a culture that tells us that the only acceptable feelings are positive ones. Most of us have learned from a young age that the point of life is to be happy all the time and if we’re not there is something wrong with us. The problem is that were also taught simultaneously that other people are responsible for how we feel. Most people believe that you feel good or bad, happy or sad depending on the mood of your spouse or the way your partner talks to you. One of the most powerful gifts I give my clients is to teach them how disempowering that is and how to change it. The first thing you must understand is that someone else's words and actions don't create your feelings. It's your thoughts about those words or actions that create your feelings. If you don't believe me try this quick experiment:
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This 'Date' Will Blow Your Mind

If you are following the podcast on Facebook then you may have caught this, but someone recently asked me:  "What happens on one of these 'Life Coaching' consultations you are always talking about?" I told them:  "It's kind of like a first date...except that the person you are going out with is future YOU."
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Do You "Like" Yourself In Your Relationship?

  I heard this great question the other day and thought of all the work we are doing here. Sometimes we get so wrapped up in all the things we think of our partner, what they do that we like and what they do that we don't. And we forget one very important question: Do you like the way YOU are acting in your relationship? I had a relationship years ago where by day, I was a relaxed, cheerful yoga teacher. And when I was hanging out with my boyfriend...I felt constantly annoyed, snippy and wanted to crawl out of my skin.  I reacted in childish, dramatic ways to things he said. I complained about him all the time in my head. I found a million things that he did that I hated. And when we broke up, I told everyone it was because he was an annoying jerk. But the truth is, he was the way he was.  He actually didn't change much in the course of the relationship.  What changed were my thoughts about him and about me.
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Don't Let Another Day Go By

  How often do you think to yourself: I will start tomorrow or maybe next week. I want to enjoy my summer holidays, I will start after that. The rush of the new school year is so busy, maybe I will just wait a little longer before I start. The holidays are just around the corner, I will start fresh in the new year. And on and on and on. The hard truth here is that when you hold on to the idea that you must wait until the "perfect moment" to begin on your goals you are leaking precious time and energy.
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Are You Stuck In The Past?

  Relationships are not always simple or easy. In fact if you have put your heart on the line and been in love, chances are you have also felt the sting of loss, rejection, anger and pain. Every relationship ends. Even the one's that are beautiful and magical end because life in this body doesn't last forever. That is part of the deal we sign up for humans who decide to choose to feel love. But sometimes relationships end and it isn't your choice. You are mad at your ex for what they did (or what they failed to do). You feel unworthy, unlovable and make their decision mean something negative about you.
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How to Support Your Partner

Watching someone you love in pain is never easy.  You want to help. You want them to feel better. You want them to feel better so you can feel better. But here is the truth and you might not like it.
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How to make the most important relationship decision

Earlier this week I shared   this podcast  with you. I talked about how the criteria for whether to break-up or stay together is a personal one.  And yet, I know some of you listened and don’t trust yourself to make the “right” choice about this or about any other decision in your relationship. Here is the thing. While you are stuck in what I call “decision limbo” weighing pros and cons, looking for evidence that you should stay or that you should go and waiting for the other shoe to drop you are abandoning yourself and your relationship. If you are focused on your partner - what they did or didn’t do you are robbing yourself of time and energy. Every moment you don’t make a decision is another precious moment of your life gone that you can’t get it back. This is true of every decision, big or small. What I notice in my clients who are in the same boat is that indecision breeds more indecision. All the flip flopping going on in your head is a direct path to more doubt and confusion. Here is my gift to you:
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What I Learned About Tinder

 Earlier this week I standing outside of an art gallery one night with my family and, we got chatting with two people who were out doing a photoshoot.
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