I heard this great question the other day and thought of all the work we are doing here. Sometimes we get so wrapped up in all the things we think of our partner, what they do that we like and what they do that we don't. And we forget one very important question: Do you like the way YOU are acting in your relationship? I had a relationship years ago where by day, I was a relaxed, cheerful yoga teacher. And when I was hanging out with my boyfriend...I felt constantly annoyed, snippy and wanted to crawl out of my skin. I reacted in childish, dramatic ways to things he said. I complained about him all the time in my head. I found a million things that he did that I hated. And when we broke up, I told everyone it was because he was an annoying jerk. But the truth is, he was the way he was. He actually didn't change much in the course of the relationship. What changed were my thoughts about him and about me.