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Don't Let Another Day Go By

  How often do you think to yourself: I will start tomorrow or maybe next week. I want to enjoy my summer holidays, I will start after that. The rush of the new school year is so busy, maybe I will just wait a little longer before I start. The holidays are just around the corner, I will start fresh in the new year. And on and on and on. The hard truth here is that when you hold on to the idea that you must wait until the "perfect moment" to begin on your goals you are leaking precious time and energy.
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Are You Stuck In The Past?

  Relationships are not always simple or easy. In fact if you have put your heart on the line and been in love, chances are you have also felt the sting of loss, rejection, anger and pain. Every relationship ends. Even the one's that are beautiful and magical end because life in this body doesn't last forever. That is part of the deal we sign up for humans who decide to choose to feel love. But sometimes relationships end and it isn't your choice. You are mad at your ex for what they did (or what they failed to do). You feel unworthy, unlovable and make their decision mean something negative about you.
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How to Support Your Partner

Watching someone you love in pain is never easy.  You want to help. You want them to feel better. You want them to feel better so you can feel better. But here is the truth and you might not like it.
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How to make the most important relationship decision

Earlier this week I shared   this podcast  with you. I talked about how the criteria for whether to break-up or stay together is a personal one.  And yet, I know some of you listened and don’t trust yourself to make the “right” choice about this or about any other decision in your relationship. Here is the thing. While you are stuck in what I call “decision limbo” weighing pros and cons, looking for evidence that you should stay or that you should go and waiting for the other shoe to drop you are abandoning yourself and your relationship. If you are focused on your partner - what they did or didn’t do you are robbing yourself of time and energy. Every moment you don’t make a decision is another precious moment of your life gone that you can’t get it back. This is true of every decision, big or small. What I notice in my clients who are in the same boat is that indecision breeds more indecision. All the flip flopping going on in your head is a direct path to more doubt and confusion. Here is my gift to you:
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What I Learned About Tinder

 Earlier this week I standing outside of an art gallery one night with my family and, we got chatting with two people who were out doing a photoshoot.
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Are You Loveable?

Do you feel acceptable and loveable simply because you are alive?   I work with a lot of intelligent, inspiring people and I always ask them this question.   Some are high level professionals doing work that will impact the millions of people in the future.   Some are savvy entrepreneurs who have built a business from nothing.    Some of my clients have gone through life events that were unimaginably hard and yet, they managed to do it with grace and strength.    And despite the amazing achievements and personal growth in each one of these rockstars, there is often a deep unrest and concern that they are not loveable, worthy and acceptable just as they are.   And I imagine that maybe you feel this way too.    Let me start by saying this is much bigger than just a personal insecurity. You are a  human and being accepted is a primal desire that has been passed down from our ancestors.    Being accepted in the tribe or community meant, protection, food, warmth and connection.   Even now, most of us are taught from an early age that our happiness and self-worth depend solely on being part of the right social circle, the right relationship, the right family and the right professional group.    To be un-included or rejected feels terrifying because at a certain time in history it drastically reduced your odds of survival and procreation.    So even though your survival may no longer hinge on being part of the group the way it did for the early humans, if you don't feel worthy, loveable and acceptable right now it may be showing up in some weird ways:
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New Relationship, Same Old Problems

*The doors to my Revitalize Your Relationship Program are open. Request a consultation now.* I was talking with a friend the other day about their marriage. Now, unless they hire me and we are in a formal session, I don't coach my friends, but this friend is was in a lot of pain considering leaving their marriage and really wanted to know what I thought. Here is what I told them: It doesn't matter what I think you should do. If you don't want to be married to this person anymore, then end the relationship. BUT, just know that in your next relationship, even though the new person may be totally different from your current partner, you will probably take all the same old problems with you. Why is that? You grew up in a culture that taught you that other people hold tremendous power over you. Their attitude, their "vibe" along with their words and actions determines whether you get to feel happy and valued or resentful and worthless. But this way of thinking is totally wrong and it's preventing you from seeing and addressing your own thought patterns.
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How to Deal With Resentment

I may be a Life Coach, but I am also a human. I have felt my fair share of resentment. I just recorded an entire podcast about it here. As a mother, when this comes up, it usually surrounding something I perceive as an obligation. I feel hard-done-by because I am doing some "work" around the house or with my kids (dirty diapers anyone) while the rest of my family gets to enjoy a good time.
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Is Couples Coaching the Right Move?

I am not telling many people about this, but I decided to work with a handful of couples who are 100 % committed to making their relationship healthier and happier. But let me be clear.
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The Relationship You Want Is Waiting

It's been an uphill climb. You have read all the self-help books, figured out each other's "Love Language", tried the practice of "Radical Honesty", did a relationship course, had a few sessions with a marriage counsellor, you shared your needs, listened to theirs promised over and over again to "do better". And yet, the fighting persisted, normal discussions turned to hurt feelings and days of not talking.
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