Revitalize Your Relationship Coaching

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How a coach helps you achieve the impossible

Last month I did something I never dreamed I'd be able to do. I cycled up Haleakala, a 10,000 foot volcano in Maui. I got the idea to do it in September, 2019 and started training, mostly indoors, so that I'd be in shape for the ride in early March, 2020.  As the date approached, the voice in my head that loved reciting all the reasons I couldn't do it or shouldn't do it became stronger and more persistent. But I had received coaching on this, and decided to hang my hat on the thought, "I am going to do this ride."
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Relationship Coaching for men

Guys, consider this: As men we tend to either see ourselves as indestructible perfect superheroes, or as total failures. Even crazier, we can switch between the two perspectives within hours, or even minutes of each other. Think about a time when you felt like everything was just right with the world. You're rocking at work, feeling great about your hair. Then your partner points out a way in which you totally blew it. Maybe it was with the kids, or forgetting something you said you would do. Your heart sinks. You whip yourself inside for being so stupid. "Why even try?" you think. But then, an hour later, you've forgotten about the screw up and are back to being master of your domain, hoping to avoid stepping in something again. That's just what it feels like to be a man, right? Not necessarily.
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How to handle Doubt

I have been talking about doubt with a lot of clients and friends this week.
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This Relationship Fairytale Isn't Helping You

Today I want to share an excerpt from my upcoming book. I am giving this book away ahead of its release along with a stack of my favourite self-developments books to one contest winner. To enter simply head over to the Apple podcast app on your phone, search Revitalize Your Relationship and leave me a written review and then send a screenshot of your review in an email to erin@revitalizeyourrelationship.com. You can also enter by sharing the podcast with your followers on Instagram (don't forget to tag @erinaquin so I see your entry). One winner will be chosen at random on Episode 101 of the podcast. Now lets dive in to one of the most unhelpful relationship fairytales that needs to die straight out of the new book
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You Are Not Alone

When you scroll through the smiling faces of your friends on vacation or out at a fancy dinner it is easy to think that everyone else is out there having a great time in their relationship's, in their jobs or as parents.
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Are You Willing To Be Heartbroken?

One of the questions I have been asking my clients recently is one that I think is important for all of us to ask.  Are you really willing to go all in on your relationship/ your career/ a big personal dream? If you are then there is a chance, maybe even a big one that you will have your heart broken. If you pour your time, energy and love into something, it might not turn out the way you had hoped. The relationship might end anyway. You might get passed up for your dream job. You might not get the critical acclaim for your art or the recognition you hoped for for your book. Most people think they can’t handle the prospect of having their heart broken so they never take the risk to find out. But to me and my clients, living in the land of “What if I had just gone for it?” Is the ultimate regret. If you go all in on your relationship or a big dream there is the risk of having your heartbroken, but if you tuck your love away or push your dreams aside out of fear of what you might feel if things don’t work out, I would argue you increase the risk of a broken heart to 100%. I have lived both ways, in avoidance of love and big dreams and in service of love and big dreams. But the latter yields something that just isn’t possible when you avoid. When you are willing to love something so much that you go after you big dreams, you also open yourself to things being wildly more beautiful than you could imagined. The risk is worth it for me.
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The Solo Practice of Creating a Great Relationship

Right now I am away on retreat in Nice, France with some of my beautiful Life Coach soul sisters. I am writing my new relationship book in a room overlooking the Mediterranean. We are exploring the villages nearby, sharing ideas and inspiration. We are doing yoga on the terrace and spending our evenings enjoying amazing food and even better company. It is a pure joy to be here and also this trip is an act of self-investment. I am intentionally focusing my time and energy on what nourishes me. I can sleep and eat according to my own preferred schedule and practice self-care in an environment where I am not also looking after my children or working with my husbands schedule. I will admit, it took me about a day to remember that I am not beholden to anyone else but me while I am here. Most of us in relationships have come to believe that the most kind and loving thing you can do is look after your partner first and put their desires above yours. I think we have this wrong.
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How to make decisions as a couple

Right now I am sitting in the airport waiting to fly to France were I will spend a week on retreat with some Life Coach friends who I seriously love. This is the second retreat I have gone on in the last six weeks to work on my new book about how to create better relationships.   Interestingly, the other day I was telling someone about it and they said (very innocently):   "Wow, you must be so grateful you have a husband that let's you do that."   The first part of that sentence I agree with.   I do feel grateful to be with my husband. He is a wonderful partner and an amazing parent to our kids. I love him and we have a blast together.    BUT let's be clear.   He doesn't "let" me do anything.
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Disappointing People

This week I had to make a hard decision in my business. It involved emailing a group of very excited people and telling them why I couldn't do what they had paid me to do followed by giving them a refund. Some were very disappointed after reading that email. But even though it felt uncomfortable for me, there is an empowering lesson here that I want to share with you. It is this: You always have a choice in your life. Nothing is truly an obligation. I run my own business. I get to do that any way I want to and I aim to do it with a lot of integrity. But when it occurred to me that I should reconsider this certain project, my first thought was: "You can't do that. You committed, so you are obligated to follow through." But being a Life Coach, I am trained to get curious when my brain tries to shout at me about what I can and can't do.
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My biggest relationship challenge (Coach Confession Time)

Want to watch me walk you through this process on Facebook Live? Click here to watch instead of read.   Sometimes people think that because I help people have great relationships with their partner's that my own relationship must be perfection and bliss at all times. Let me assure you....it's not. But here is why I think that is a good thing. If my marriage were perfect and easy all the time, I wouldn't really need the tools I am teaching my clients, I would get rusty and probably wouldn't make the investment into my own self-coaching that I encourage my clients to make. So today, I am going to pull back the curtain on my own relationship to share with you the main challenge I am working on actively right now and exactly what I am doing to improve this issue. This the exact step-by-step process of how I coach myself and my clients to find solutions to all their problems.
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