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How to Baby Proof Your Relationship

Connecting with your partner especially after having children is not always easy to do.
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Reconnecting After Kids

  I love my children with all my heart. They are beautiful little beings and most of the time they are a joy to be around. But there are some days and some phases of their growth, when I wonder if one or both of them will ever stop crying/screaming/doing the exact opposite of what I am asking them to do. Those days feel rough and often when Steve comes home, I am just done. All I want to do is go sit in the bathtub with a few candles and a book alone for a few hours. As much as I try to remember that my kids are doing exactly what learning, growing, healthy children do it takes effort not to feel like I am failing as a parent. Those days are hard as every parent knows, but while many of us focus and worry about how our relationship is going with our children, it is easy to hit pause on your relationship with your partner. I get it. You feel exhausted and after singing the same five songs or answering the same five questions all day, you might want to veg out instead of have a meaningful conversation. You might lie down with your kids and bedtime and routinely fall asleep for hours. Or maybe, you feel the seeds of resentment and spend all your time together going back and forth with your spouse complaining about why your day was more difficult than theirs. How Can You Change This?
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How to End An Argument {Free Resource}

Love is a wonderful thing. Once you decide to commit and build a life together it's supposed to be sunshine and unicorns, right? You may have heard the statistics that in North America almost half of the couples who marry will at some point divorce, but you don’t start out thinking it will ever be you. After all, you love this person, you know this person and you want to build a life together. Most of my coaching clients who report struggling in their marriage tell me sometimes they land in an argument and have no idea how they got there. One minute they are talking to their husband and the next, a comment is made that snowballs the conversation from bickering to yelling, from a small disagreement to three days of not talking to one another. In order to stop the argument before it starts, you must first understand exactly why it is you fight with your partner.
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Thank You and Goodbye (Maybe)

Today I wanted to talk to those of you who have been around here for a long time.
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3 Steps to Improve Your Underwhelming Sex Life

Recently, I asked my community to share with me the challenges they are currently experiencing in their marriage or long-term relationship.
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"He Makes Me Mad" And Other Lies In Your Relationship

"He made me so mad/sad/annoyed" is a lie that is destroying your relationship. Did you know that when you are “mad at someone” it isn’t because of what they did? I know you probably aren’t going to like hearing this, but it is actually the best news I can give you when it comes to restoring your relationship. And its true whether you are in a marriage, a business partnership or basically any other encounter you can have with a human being. Here is what I mean. Let’s imagine your husband is supposed to be home at 6pm so that you can go out for dinner with a friends. At 5:45 he texts you, still at work and says he is going to be a few minutes late. At 6:25 he walks in the door and there you are ready to go at the door, red hot with rage. You walk past him without a word and race out to meet your friends but you are now in a bad mood and spend the first hour of your “fun dinner out” complaining to your friends about him. Now, I know that some of you reading this are thinking; “Well, YEAH I would be mad and I have every right to be!” It’s true you have every right to feel anything you want. But when I coach clients a question I often ask them is “Why would you choose to feel that way?” We learned this lie that other people can make us feel things by their words and actions from a young age. If a child on the playground laughs at you and then you have a negative emotion you were likely taught that their laughter “made you feel bad”. This line of thinking is a big part of our culture and a very hard concept to challenge, but I want to do it because this is the key to making every single relationship in your life better.
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Stop Feeling Shame About Your Relationship

Relationships often start as one thing and transform into something else entirely. For some couples, their bond strengthens and grows with time. But for others the bond becomes thin and they grow apart. Many of my clients come to me and tell me the main problem in their life is "stress and overwhelm" and as we dig a little deeper through the challenges of navigating things like their career or parenthood many of them tell me that their marriage is struggling too.
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Are You In Your "Dream Relationship"?

Do you wake up every day, look at your partner and think "I am so grateful to be with you"? or do you wake up, look at your partner and think something a little less wonderful? Coupling with another human can be a challenge for many people and as the years go by, if you aren't paying attention it is easy to let your relationship with your spouse land on the back burner or worse, it deteriorates to the point were you don't feel like you have a partner anymore but instead an adversary. No one starts out wanting to feel that way and if you feel your relationship going down that road, I want to offer you a tool that might change the whole thing. This might be exactly what you need to save yourself from becoming disillusioned in your marriage. Read More
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The Key to A Dream Relationship

This past weekend it was my fourth anniversary. Steve and I had two weddings and we celebrate them both because both occasions were so meaningful to our lives and it's another excuse to eat a beautiful meal (I even managed to make a chai cake while he was out with the kids for a little while). I also think it is important, at least for us, to have these moments to reflect on our lives in one another's orbit especially after having children because there are some days when we get to spend about five minutes together total all day and we use it to figure out the logistics of the next day. The Problem Sometimes I feel like I won the lottery when I married Steve. He is a kind, fun, intelligent and supportive partner and an engaged loving parent too. If you don't know much about him, check this out and you will get a sense of him. Our relationship works but not just because Steve is amazing. I think the reason that some relationships flourish when children are added to the mix and others seems to shrivel has a lot to do with the learned parameters we have of what a relationship "should" look like and the checklist of expectations we hold over our partners. From "Love Langauge's" to Couples Retreat's, the search for connection with your partner in the midst of nurturing your career and raising children can be a challenging one (often made more challenging if you feel embarrassed about your relationship trouble). If this resonates, it might be because you were taught directly or indirectly that what your partner does has an impact on you. You probably believe, like many do, that your spouse should do things they know you will make you happy and never do anything that might upset you. The Manual In Life Coaching, we call this The Manual.
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How to Get More Done In Less Time

A few months ago I completed an incredible training to up-level the work I am able to do with my clients and students. Teaching yoga has been a powerful tool, but for many people it opens the door to a physical and spiritual awakening that we may not have the support to investigate further. For many people yoga is a way to "tune in" to what they are thinking and feeling and meet a whole different part of themselves. Not bad for just unrolling your mat right?! I wanted to be able to meet more of my students in that space through my work as a Life Coach because self-inquiry is another transformational branch on the tree of Yoga. And since opening up more space in my day to work with people I have noticed that many of my clients are saying the same things. The new mother who doesn't want to put her health, happiness and big goals on the back-burner for the next 20 years while she raises her kids. The entrepreneur who is juggling the pursuit of her passion, her relationship and trying to maintain an intensive spiritual/ yoga practice. The manager who can't seem to figure out how to close his computer and leave his work at work. Their lives look different, but they all tell me the same thing. "There just isn't enough time in the day." With a business of my own, two kids under three, a partner I love spending time with and a daily spiritual practice you might imagine I would be nodding along in agreement with my clients. But I am not, because an unexpected thing happened when I had kids.
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