One of the questions I have been asking my clients recently is one that I think is important for all of us to ask. Are you really willing to go all in on your relationship/ your career/ a big personal dream? If you are then there is a chance, maybe even a big one that you will have your heart broken. If you pour your time, energy and love into something, it might not turn out the way you had hoped. The relationship might end anyway. You might get passed up for your dream job. You might not get the critical acclaim for your art or the recognition you hoped for for your book. Most people think they can’t handle the prospect of having their heart broken so they never take the risk to find out. But to me and my clients, living in the land of “What if I had just gone for it?” Is the ultimate regret. If you go all in on your relationship or a big dream there is the risk of having your heartbroken, but if you tuck your love away or push your dreams aside out of fear of what you might feel if things don’t work out, I would argue you increase the risk of a broken heart to 100%. I have lived both ways, in avoidance of love and big dreams and in service of love and big dreams. But the latter yields something that just isn’t possible when you avoid. When you are willing to love something so much that you go after you big dreams, you also open yourself to things being wildly more beautiful than you could imagined. The risk is worth it for me.