One of the most insidious thoughts I hear often after someone has told me their relationship struggles is "I shouldn't complain". When I hear this on a consultation call I always laugh and say "Well, if you are going to work with me I am going to teach you how to complain more and complain smarter." Complaining "smart" is the act of uncovering your true thoughts and feelings in a safe, judgement free environment with me as your coach. What most don't realize that when you cover up your negative thoughts and feelings with a "I shouldn't feel this way", or"I don't have any right to feel negative feelings", you can't ever actually change them.
